How to enjoy that life and more.

In a world, where people have always try to understand the rough times when all singles in every situation puts us in a crammed situation. And there are some who asks fate or even desperate fortune tellers or even the universe for a sign. My name is Latasha, but sometimes I'm called Tasha, and just like a single person who refuses to find love or just want to be happy to have no relationship for 26 + years without no contact with a guy at all. Some guys on Social media are my guy pals, and being in College, going to dance practices, and most of all going to church on Sundays. And sometimes Wednesdays. I don't really have to time to be desperate, jealous, or even have the care for love.

Life can be pretty harsh, but it's not always easy dealing with the single life. No matter the age, we all have to remember what can happen in life stays with you forever. Love isn't a fairy tale nor a game to be playing in a game show or even airing on live TV. It's the world that we live in now. For most Single people, we cope in a positive way not in a hateful way, throughout my life, I always hated love because no one seemed too interested in me, and I became very angry at myself for having an issue with it. when I was a high schooler, I  felt pressured to act desperate for someone to dance with me, but it never happened, in the real world we are gonna have to accept being single, why you ask?
because the relationship is real, but we aren't. Some calls us fake and some blames our loneliness on ourselves, I've been where you are now. And I still am in this reality world of ours.

But..... There is another way for us Singles to enjoy being lonely and have fun doing it.

Rule One: Never Blame yourself you don't like to talk.

As to being single, we have the luxury to have a wonderful life instead being all by yourself in the gala and drive yourself crazy if no one is not talking to you. It's really normal, not torture or agonize yourself in that situation.

Before : Acting scared, fear by rejection, or even feeling left out of the group.

After: Try to communicate and feel free to do some read, dancing or even look around the socializing with the friends you already have that makes you feel more confident, brave, agile,  and very kind towards others.

Rule Two: Don't even talk to older men from another country.

People nowadays, likes to talk to younger women, and it defines in that one big word: Creepy, I know it's not a serious issue, but in reality prospective world it is happening now. Older men tend to flirt to women because they are going for the wrong types, instead of waiting for the right type of women.

Here's the signs warnings that we sometime miss but  we need a little help, and here's how to know it:

(The words) If you see something is going to be strange or out of place just talk to a friend to understand better like: Sweetheart, dear, I love You, Kisses, or even behavior issues. Here are a quick few that you might do for yourself in the future:

*Say "No"!, it will be quicker than it has to be.
*Give him some reasons why you're not interested in him.
*Don't talk to him at all, call the police or talk to someone.

And if you are on Social Media like: Google+, Facebook, or Twitter.
Just Block that guy and delete or Archive the comments so people can see the true ugly colors.

Rule Three: Don't be in a rush to find love!

Okay, lots of people consider to do this bragging about the bf/gf relationship status on Social Media, and you have nothing to say about love because you're not in one. And it's very normal to feel that way, but remember these three steps:

Control: How we feel inside that can't be tamed, but needs to working in our favor
Determination: To figure a way to ignore the urge to find some stranger that you never met ask you out or forcing it.
Deal with it: Instead of trying to feel bad that you're not a gf or bf just be happy not to talk about it and move on.

Rule Four: Be happy for others.

We as lonely singles can't take the pain or strain of being happy for another person who is getting married, engaged, or in a relationship, because it's hard to enlighten on your painful memory of rejection. This year, more people get into a jealous frenzy to be unhappy and act a certain way that we cannot control. And Here's the "we should" and Instead:

We should : "I can't believe she gets to be married"?! "Why does everyone have a Partner but me?"
and even this: "It's not fair I waited for a long time, and nothing happening!" "I hate not getting married!"

Instead: "I'm glad, they are getting married, and my turn will come." " I hope that's me one day." " I can enjoy being single, wait for the right time."

That will make things easier for you if you have to be having a issue with being not married or engaged, just remember: "You're time will come, just wait for that perfect time.

Rule Five: Have fun as a single!

When we feel down, there's only way to have some fun, be with your friends! It's always a great way to stay positive on the single life, and here's some ideas how:

* Doing Activities like : Bowling, Golfing, Swimming, Paintball, Lazer tag, buggy jumping, Archery, Camping, Hiking, Dancing, skydiving, basketball, skiing, snowboarding, Ice Skating, going to the movies, eating out, surfing, sail boarding, scuba, and soccer.

Or

Doing some free-time on your own activities:

*Reading, poetry, watching documentaries, writing stories, studying, do some pottery, play a guitar, piano, or a flute. Write some songs, draw, paint, or making jewelry. Woodwork, exercise.

No matter what you do, just keep yourself occupied, and let no distractions stop you from doing any couple stuff. Keep being calm, and you can achieve all things in life.

Rule Six:  Is it My fault?

The Answer to that question, that we ask every single day would in that same question: "Is it My Fault"? The Answer is..... No. It's not your fault, it's people who is the fault to our failing not in a relationship status quota. Life has a thousand-Million dollar questions and every turn there are those who fear to be in a relationship and the next thing you know we're in the hospital, wondering how did get in this mess. Did you know? That millions of people decide to commit suicide because we can't take the pain anymore of : Rejection, Hate,  not interested, and yes even pushed away because we aren't pretty or good enough. That's called  low self- esteem. We cannot outrun it, we can't hide from it, but it is there to make us feel pain and hurt. Always Remember:

*Don't Doubt: We are hurting ourselves in the end, when it's least excepted.

*Don't change: Change our body image by Botox, tanning, going to the fitness center every day. All those things will never make you happy, it will make you Miserable.

*Don't put yourself down: It hurts your family and friends if you really don't like yourself or hearing that, people in your life are gonna be there for you 24/7 even though you don't want them.

So before you hit in that ditch, think of the consequences that will happen. Every person and including yes you will be putting at Risk.

Rule Seven: Am I ready for a Prince/princess in my life?

Do you feel like you couldn't do this? Or feeling that you're not prepared for the relationship Status? Things will get better and less tougher on you! And what's we fear as singles for that time that has come and knowing it's hard to keep control of your heart that pumps real hard?

Here's the solutions:

~Breathe: It can ease the readiness in own bodies, and can also relieve the strain in our stress level; don't be breathing too hard or you'll get panicked easily.

~Relax: If you keep calm, the better it is for you and anyone else to lift up that weight on you.

~ Smile: Just be yourself and have fun.

Better? Good. I'm glad! And when he/she wants to talk to you Always:

* Start small on the conversation
*Understand him/her in that relationship
*Pick out the topics that you like or ask him/her what they like
*Meet up at a place where you feel comfortable.

Just remember to take things slow not fast or the other person will move on, and you have to wait again to calm yourself down and apologize. That is one way to do it.

Rule Eight: NO taking it in bed, Wrong!

We can be single as long as we want to, but do be careful! Because there are some who can't wait until they take you home to have sex, in which you have to avoid real fast if they aren't understanding your signals Here's five tips to avoid:

*Never wear sexy clothes: It will be a huge issue, and he/ she will cling to it no matter what you're doing, or how you wanna end your day. Wear simple dress with a jacket, no sleeveless dresses that turns on the guy for more flirting time.

* Reject the request
It's polite to say no, because you weren't raised up like that, or just wanna avoid it.

*Have an Excuse
Tell them that you're busy, and leave when it's time to go.

*Just don't react
As Men/Women, we can't help ourselves to do, it happens. Therefore, just go to the restroom and wash your face and sneak quietly without him/her noticing you had left.

*Just tell them
" No, I am a Women who will not do this inappropriate gesture with you break it off!" Or "I'm a guy who will not go with this outrageous gesture that you're offering, I'm ending this date Goodbye!"

Any way you to this, just make sure they understand it, and don't react to it. There is consequences to do this misbehavior: Pregnancy, Sexually transmitted diseases, Rape, or even just doing this for the fun of it. No it's never okay to go with them. Never! ~To be continued on Part Two Finale Being Single How to Enjoy that life and more.